When you say "yes," are you saying yes because you want to do something, or because you think someone may like you more, you may garner more attention, or you are just plain afraid to say no because you don't want to disappoint the person?
Fear of rejection causes us to make choices we wouldn't make if we were secure in ourselves. Suppose we could remember that we only have ONE person to please; we would make better decisions.
This is easier said than done, but there is hope. When you lay out your non-negotiables and fix your eyes on where you (and God) want you to go, it is easy to say no and stand tall. Indeed, you will disappoint someone most of the time, but the choice is easy when you are confident and secure in where you are going and who you are following. You can quickly align the opportunity with who/where you are going and confidently say yes or no. The quote from my devotional this morning puts it perfectly:
If you value the unconditional love of God more than the conditional approval of people, you will overcome rejection.
I would love to send you this devotional. The words in it daily are so inspirational. They help to remind me of the path that I am on and who I am to follow. If you don't know God or Jesus or have a higher power, I would happily introduce you. You won't be disappointed and will have an unconditional friend to lean on for life.
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