Ikes, listening is one of my biggest challenges. My mind is always racing, I am either busy thinking about what I am going to say next or what I should be doing. Thankfully, in the past few years with the help of Transformation Tables and practicing my listening skills, I have been able to improve. The improvement doesn’t mean I have mastered it, but I am getting better. One thing I know for sure - IT TAKES PRACTICE.
We have so many distractions in life that make it hard to focus on a conversation while in a meeting (especially a Zoom meeting), even reading or studying, which is a form of listening, it is a challenge.
Thankfully, when I put myself around growth-minded individuals in Transformation Tables, we can talk about the value of listening. We recognize how the lack of listening impacts those around us and even ourselves. We think we are good at multi-tasking, but ultimately we aren’t.
During the Transformation Tables 2.0 group on Wednesday, where about 15 of us joined on Zoom to talk about the value of listening, one person in the group said a quote that I LOVED!
"Listening is not an area to practice multi-tasking." - Tammy, Transformation Tables 2.0
That hit me like a ton of bricks. I know that when I attempt to ”multi-task” during a conversation, the person feels less valued, and I miss parts of the conversation. This used to be an area that I was really proud of, the ability to multi-task. What I now have learned is how unproductive it is and moreover, how rude it is to the person I am talking to. This isn’t an area that I am perfect in. I am a work in progress, and I REALLY have to work at it. In the end, I feel better when I truly listen. Make eye contact and care about the person/project that is in front of me. I need to do ONE THING great, and not worry about trying to complete two or more things at the same time.
I am so grateful for Transformation Tables. They have changed my life and that of so many others. If you haven’t been part of a Transformation Tables group - do it today. It’s the best free therapy and personal growth you will ever get. Even if you don’t think you personally need it, you may be adding value to someone that does!
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